Couples Therapy for

Neurodivergent Partners

Because love doesn’t come with a manual — especially when brains work differently!

When one or both partners are neurodivergent — ADHD, autistic, highly sensitive, or wired a little differently — relationships can feel uniquely challenging.

Everyday moments like planning, follow-through, emotional regulation, or communication can spiral into conflict that feels bigger than it “should.”

You might feel:

  • Stuck in the same arguments about chores, responsibilities, or follow-through

  • Overwhelmed when one of you floods with emotions or shuts down completely

  • Misunderstood when forgetfulness, hyperfocus, or distractibility gets taken personally

  • Out of sync because your energy rhythms, attention, or sensory needs don’t align

  • Lonely — wanting closeness, but unsure how to bridge the gap

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many couples living with neurodivergence find themselves in similar loops — and the good news is, with the right tools and support, things can get better.

I help ADHD and neurodivergent couples navigate distractions, overwhelm, & mismatched rhythms so you can enjoy closeness without the chaos!

Neurodiversity-affirming couples therapy looks a little different….

My Approach

Generic couples therapy often assumes “typical” brains. But when your wiring is different, you need strategies that honor how you both actually process, feel, and connect.

In therapy together, we will…

  • Map your wiring — understand how ADHD, autism, or other neurodivergent traits show up in your daily life and relationship dynamics

  • Build communication scaffolding — create structured check-ins, use signal words for overwhelm, and find ways to slow down reactivity

  • Strengthen emotional safety — learn co-regulation tools and faster repair practices after conflict

  • Share the mental load differently — design systems for chores, planning, and follow-through that don’t leave one partner carrying it all and play to your individual strengths

  • Celebrate neurodivergent strengths — spontaneity, creativity, deep focus, authenticity — and weave them into your relationship as assets to be celebrated and appreciated

This isn’t about “fixing” either of you. It’s about learning how to love each other more fully with your wiring differences, instead of fighting against them.

Queer ADHD Couple in neurodiversity-affirming couples therapy

Is this for us?

This work is especially supportive if…

  • Neurodiversity brings different challenges to relationships so it’s understandable that you might benefit from a different approach.

  • Let’s move towards curiosity, understanding and compassion for you both.

  • You’ll learn how to get curious about and take action in ways that make you both feel more supported and cared for

  • Let’s get started together!

Take the Next Step… 

Your relationship doesn’t have to stay in survival mode. With the right support, you can move from constant conflict into greater trust, understanding, and closeness.

Book a free consultation today to see if neurodivergent-informed couples therapy is a good fit for you both.